talking to very republican teenagers is so surreal
It must be strange for you to see teenagers who don’t blindly follow their liberal parents, or their liberal teachers, or the liberal media, or liberal celebrities, or liberal musicians, or liberals on the internet.
Dude, you’re so deep into liberalism that you don’t even recognize it as liberalism.
Dying because almost all the teenagers and recently twenty-somethings I grew up with blindly followed their conservative parents and literally will not question any of the beliefs they’ve had since they were children.
I know. This is a very controversial topic right now but hear me out. Because I am disabled and I am frustrated with what this site has turned ableism into. Nothing more or less than a list of words to be avoided . Tumblr informs me that that is all I have to face and struggle with every time I leave the house. I really wish a simple list was all ableism was. I do. But Why aren’t we focusing on the real culprit here?
Ignorance. Ignorance that tumblr is spreading because they refuse to talk about the real issues. How about the unheard of concept that people with mental disabilities are not stupid! And you know what? Not one single time in all of these lists floating around have I seen someone say that. No, instead we are told that you should not use the word because the mentally disabled should find it hurtful and offensive. Excuse me? These lists have spread all across this site and back. Lists informing everyone that the first thing you should think of when you think of the mentally disabled are the taboo words “stupid” and “dumb”. And no one seems to understand how problematic that is. How you all have single handedly put that label on people by claiming to fight against ableism. Let me instead give you something new to think about. People with mental disabilities are NOT stupid and that word has NO place being used that way. Trying to turn it into a slur? That will never happen. It is a common part of our language. It’s not going away. All you have done is told people that they have a new set of words that should hurt them every time they hear it and made an association so that the first thought when someone hears that word is now the disabled, creating new prejudice and more ableism than before.
Why are you focusing on words instead of teaching that not everyone in a wheelchair is paralyzed? Every person who has ever needed a wheelchair knows all too well that this is a very serious problem that tumblr surprisingly shys away from. And what about the fact that just because you see a person walking in a store or down the street, you cannot assume they do not have a chronic and/or invisible illness? These are some mind blowing topics right? Things that might really educate some people about what ableism is help help limit the prejudice and fear that people face every single time they leave their house.
Ableism isn’t a list of words that some able bodied and minded people put together to inform the disabled what they should and should not find offensive. Ableism is maintaining ignorance and ignoring the real issues.
There always seems to be an abundance of people in need of links as to why the asterisk after trans is transmisogynistic or just flat out unnecessary so I browsed Google for a while and found some good explanations about why we should stop using the asterisk.
- probably the most comprehensive post with a large amount of reasons as to why the asterisk is transmisogynistic and how many people abuse its usage
- the post above but with some insightful commentary and more info
- shorter explanation about the transmisogyny behind the asterisk from a trans woman
- the asterisk was used originally by truscum to ‘tolerate’ non-binary identities
- conversation between trans women and other dmab trans people about the asterisk (not to be added on to if you aren’t a dmab trans person)
If you have other links, add them! If you think there’s something wrong with one of the links I provided, let me know! Save this list and use it to explain to people why we should ditch the asterisk.
thank you friends! posting for overall knowledge!
- Being white doesn’t automatically make you a racist.
- Being a man doesn’t automatically make you a sexist.
- Being a heterosexual doesn’t automatically make you homophobic.
- Being cisgendered doesn’t automatically make you transphobic.
- Existing as a part of the majority does not automatically make you an oppressor to the minority.
But being sexist/racist/homophobic/transphobic does in fact make u sexist/racist/homophobic/transphobic and if you happen to be a part of the majority then we can point it out that you are in fact part of the majority and u are in fact oppressing a minority.
An individual’s right not to be judged doesn’t have shit to do which demographic they belong to.
"But being [X] does in fact make u [X].."
”..if you happen to be [Y] then we can point it out that you are in fact part of [Y]”
”.. and u (Y) are in fact (X)”
Well, you tried. No.
"…and u (Y) are in fact (X)"
You misinterpreted this.
The author is not saying you are automatically sexist/racist/homophobic/transphobic if you are part of a majority. What the author is saying is that if you are part of a majority you benefit from the oppression of whichever minorities you aren’t.
Unless you are actively working against that oppression and doing everything you can to break down the social systems that support it you are, in fact, part of the system that is oppressing that minority.
Oppression is not only about individual acts of aggression. Standing by and letting them happen, and letting our culture continue to build on the backs of minorities, is oppression.
Moreover, for those of you who keep saying and reblogging this (and, no, someone didn’t finally say it, I see this kind of post come through my dash at least once a week), the majority of bloggers talking about the fact that they feel uncomfortable around straight/white/cis/male people are not saying that every straight/white/cis/male person hates them and is deliberately cruel to them.
They’re saying that they’ve had too many encounters with those who are, and no one has a stamp on their forehead that says homophobe or rapist or transphobe or racist. You don’t know who those people might be, so you tread carefully around all of them, and when you try to point this out, people accuse you of hating all of that group. It’s not about hate, it’s about self-preservation.
Sure, all guys/straight people/white people/cis people aren’t like that. For me, as a queer woman, I don’t believe that all straight people or guys are out to hurt me, but until we have a reliable way to tell who is and who isn’t, we’re going to tread carefully.