First, I’m not picking on the person I reblogged this from.
Second, I’m not saying you all are not entitled to your own opinion.
Just please recognize that I am also entitled to MY own opinion.
Having said all that;
I find it disturbing that this story also talks about a toddler being raised (more like severely neglected) by his crack addicted mother and being physically abused by her pimp (being kicked, punched, and having cigarettes put out on his back and chest). Then, in his adolescent years, being repeatedly raped and beaten by an adult female friend of his adopted mother. YET, (and this is the part that disturbs me) the only part that a lot of other people are disturbed about is he, as an ADULT, enters into strictly CONSENSUAL S&M (SadoMasochism) sexual relationships with like-minded ADULT females. Hell, he is so adamant about consent that he has each sub look over paperwork regarding what sexual acts/punishments they will/will not consent to. What about that says “glorification of abuse on women”?
Seems to me that the only one being abused in these books is the main male character; AND he’s being abused by women!
I am a woman who was abused as a child. I am a mother of a teenage daughter. I am a Criminal Justice Major and Sociology Minor. I have read the “Fifty Shades of Grey” trilogy. I do not find that these books glorify the abuse of women.
As for it being “trash,” if you don’t like it don’t read it.
Using the contract Christian draws up for Ana as evidence that he is concerned with consent is a faulty argument.
- He gives her the contract before he knows her well enough to know she’s a virgin. If you don’t know someone, you don’t give them a contract for a 24/7 BDSM relationship. That’s like marrying someone you’ve just met.
- She never actually signs the contract, but he acts as though she has.
That is not how you use a contract in a consensual BDSM relationship. The concern I have, and many other people share, is not that he is into consensual BDSM/S&M. It is that he is an abuser who disguises his abuse as BDSM.
He refuses to call Ana by her preferred name. He does things she explicitly asks him not to. He stalks her. In one scene, when he thinks she has broken up with him, he shows up at her house and forces her while she says “No” over and over again, but the book presents that as acceptable because she started to like it.
These books misrepresent safe, sane, and consensual BDSM. They romanticize abuse. The main female character is child-like, and her innocence is used against her while the contrast between it and Christian’s wordly ways, despite the relatively small age gap, creates a power differential that is not consensual, discussed, or properly handled.
Moreover, they push the very dangerous idea that an abuser can be “fixed” if you just love them enough. It also ties interest in BDSM to past trauma (i.e. abuse), and so the interest decreases as Christian works through that.
Ana is not even a submissive. She does not enjoy much of what happens, and only suffers through it for the sake of saving Christian.
I have been into BDSM for eight years, and am currently in a long-term D/s relationship. My Domme has been part of the community for more than a decade. Both of us are very concerned about the misrepresentation of consent in these books.
And the fact that someone can read these and think what happens in them happens with *informed* consent is the most dangerous aspect. Because they present themselves as showing a BDSM relationship based on consent when it is not.
A moment of silence
for all those
with absolute shit movie adaptions
We are so sorry that happened to you
id like to add
you wanna talk about bad adaptations?
I honestly didn’t even have to scroll down to know that was coming
woof this is painful to just look at
Just going to leave this here.
Margaery looked very like her brother, the Knight of Flowers. [Cersei] wondered if they had other things in common. Our little rose has a good many ladies waiting attendance on her, night and day.
can we just take a moment to imagine little cute nine-year-old hermione reading matilda
and peering into this book about a smart, bookish girl who could move things with her mind
and then can you imagine her concentrating very hard on the books on the bookshelf and slowly, slowly, getting them to move
Sometimes I get huffy about tumblr but then I see that 260,000 people got the same kind of chills I did reading this…
The back story to this is that my mother’s husband posted this political cartoon: http://youngcons.com/political-cartoon-perfectly-calls-out-liberal-media-bias-on-hamas-attacks/
It was his third post on the Israel-Palestine situation, and I had not responded to any of the others, but I couldn’t keep ignoring them, so I posted a number of links to articles about Israeli imprisonment of children, illegal settlements, the death toll, etc.
At that point, Mr. Green decided to get involved.
Yes, that makes sense. White supremacists are totally pro-Palestine.
Because being against human rights violations somehow means I hate women. Clearly.
Shockingly, he didn’t take me up on that.
I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:
“Anorexia nervosa is the single deadliest mental health condition. 5% to 20% of people diagnosed with anorexia will ultimately die from its ravaging effects on the body and mind: cardiac complications, organ failure, and even suicide. 1
These are the fruits of a media culture that prizes dangerously skinny, digitally altered bodies over those of real, healthy women.
From underweight and anatomically impossible Barbies, to jokes at the expense of normal-weight female characters on television, women are trained to hate their own bodies from birth until death - and pointed toward starvation diets as the only way to be loved and appreciated.”
Want to look like Barbie, you say? Well, the price of beauty may be more than you’re willing to pay.
Although she’s long been considered the universal ideal for a woman’s figure, an analysis of her doll-size shape in proportion to a fully grown woman shows Barbie is anatomically impossible and would be reduced to walking on all fours and incapable of lifting anything.
Big-headed, busty Barbie would have only size three feet and tiny ankles, which means she’d have to walk on all fours. Her arms, too, would be practically useless, with 3.5-inch wrists. Her long, skinny neck wouldn’t be able to hold up her head, either.
narcissa malfoy was probably the most powerful occlumens in hogwarts history and nobody knew
she literally stood up to lord voldemort and lied that harry potter was dead and i don’t know about you but if i were an evil ruler i would probably want to triple-check that my nemesis was, you know, actually deceased
voldemort had actual doubts about snape
narcissa swans on by without a whisper, without a second glance
Ah but you see, Voldemort could not understand love. At that point Narcissa was willing to do anything to get to her son, and Voldemort would certainly never look for one of his circle to be so filled with the type of powerful magic he could never understand. This scene proved once again that a mother’s love is what saved Harry, only this time it wasn’t from his mother, and it wasn’t for him.
#yo but can we also talk about the underlying sexism that existed within the death eater organization tho#cissa and bella were the only female death eaters#don’t tell me you can’t see lord voldemort not even considering the fact that a woman might outsmart him#don’t tell me you can’t see voldemort believing a woman is too dumb to love#yeah blah blah love#but lord voldemort being about purity#hating his family#hating his mother and father#don’t tell me you can’t imagine him being a sexist too#purebloods are all about archaic families#with their traditional arrangement#hp#(sorry for headcanon ramble) (via moberyn)
#sexenreblogs #text #hella wicked tags omg #especially with bella being his most loyal and he trusted basically NOTHING TO HER #like #bellatrix would’ve had harry potter in his hands in 24hrs TOPS but voldy left so much up to dumb men (via buckyoubucky)
#yO BUT HTIS IS EXACTLY MY POINT#BELLA WAS MORE LIKE A PRETTY LAPDOG THAT HE WAS ANNOYED BY#BECAUSE SHE WAS ACTUALLY A HOUND#THAT SHOULD’VE BEEN OUT HUNTING#like#voldemort didn’t trust women#yes#yessss#this is so good (via moberyn)
Favourite Audrey Ramirez Quotes
Audrey doesn’t get NEARLY enough love. It’s Edwardian period, yet she’s a genius Hispanic engineer who wears overalls, has adorably little meaty arms, doesn’t take any crap from boys, runs a mechanic business with her father and her sister is a prize fighter.
Cool Disney female characters don’t have to be princesses, folks.